dealing with emotinal pain, lifes distractions and depression. your views.

[ben 21]

im realy in the wars latley. unemployed, no money (oh well). and this week broke up with the love of my life. the first two diddnt matter because i said to myself i always had the love of a fine woman. now i dont even have that. i havent come here to moan, more to seek inspiration from pepole. i want to keep up the fight, im taking the gym to war next week, probably do a 7 day split lol. so if you wouldnt mind sharing some of your stories be it, some one close to you dieing or a divorce or whatever, talk about how you dealt with it and what your doing now. would realy appriciate it.

[Pkant2002]

Hey sorry to hear your pain. First off I would say is be sad for s few days get it out your system there is no shame in being up set after a break up, but My advice would be to turn to family and friends.

They know you better than anyone, I often seek the advice from my mum on certain lady troubles I have had. Some how she has always helped.

Go have fun as well hit the gym do something different go for a night out or a round of golf with your friends just get it off your mind.

Other than that all the best. X

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[ben 21]

thanks, pkant2002. needed to hear that. :-) i,ll take your advice.

[HBK]

We all grieve on losses in different ways, I for one do it alone, sheltered from the world. Saying that though the best thing you could do is to talk to somebody about what happened, family or friends preferably, as Pkant said. In the very least they'll put it into perspective by allowing you to see it through their eyes. This will allow you to move on quicker and accept what happened.

[muskle]

do the man thing, have a good sulk, cry, watch 24hours of awful tv non stop, then the world will seem just as crappy, but sometimes you just need to get that out of your system. Your friends and family will understand, and you might not want to pour your heart out straight away, but when you are ready, they will be too. Then come on the forums, let out some steam, we care for you dude.

i know this might sound insensitive, but initially, i bet your training will be fantastic, there is nothing in the world that can make you train harderthan the ' I HATE YOU WOMAN' attitude.

you are right at the bottom now mate, but trust me, the only way is up. and you will come back stronger from this.

[Zeigler]

Go and buy a huge cheesecake and watch films with fighting in all day, then go and train!

[ben 21]

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Go and buy a huge cheesecake and watch films with fighting in all day, then go and train!

lol you and your cheesecake.

[ben 21]

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do the man thing, have a good sulk, cry, watch 24hours of awful tv non stop, then the world will seem just as crappy, but sometimes you just need to get that out of your system. Your friends and family will understand, and you might not want to pour your heart out straight away, but when you are ready, they will be too. Then come on the forums, let out some steam, we care for you dude.

i know this might sound insensitive, but initially, i bet your training will be fantastic, there is nothing in the world that can make you train harderthan the ' I HATE YOU WOMAN' attitude.

you are right at the bottom now mate, but trust me, the only way is up. and you will come back stronger from this.

only problem is she still loves me very much, but shes from india and im not. and after 2 years of sneaking around she couldnt do it anymore. we had such dreams too. its a shame when real love ends up this way when theres 1000,s of pepole in abusive relationships and pepole getting divorced and using children against each other. its not a fair world.

[James]

I had to deal with extreme bipolar throughout my late teens and early twenties, especially straight through university - training and a solid good diet helped keep me on the straight and narrow, also surrounding yourself with friends you can just talk complete ******** with is great, I would also suggest looking around to meet new people with similar interests, maybe get to some gig nights or new clubs. Hold in there matey, the ONLY way is up, and think about how much excitement and progress awaits you!

Also as a note to your last post, the world/noone/life owes you nothing I am afraid, at the end of the day we are all complete insignificant in the grand scheme of things... many people look at this in a bad way, but I like to look at it as though there is NO barriers to what you can do, say or think - obviously within the law. Happy people don't go through any less stress or heartache than the rest of us, their mindset is the only thing that changes.

Perhaps, go out and have fun with people. I like to stop people on the street and pretend i am deaf, asking them for the time (pointing at my wrist), they go out of their way to help you, and show you their phone clocks or watches... I then thank them very much (talking to them by this time), I always get a positive reaction and a massive grin (mostly from women ), really brightens their day. Another one I do is go into a busy coffee shop, queue up for ages, then when it's my turn I ask if they serve coffee, completely straight faced - peoples reactions are AMAZING, especially once you tell them you are just ****ing about; it really makes peoples day as it is out of the ordinary, i actually get the staff THANKING me for brightening their shift! - plus, NO ONE cares if you make a fool out of yourself - when you are IN on the joke

[fussyjim]

Agree with what already has been said. You will feel better trust me, I came out of a long term relationship at the end of last year so I understand how you are feeling.

It just takes time but it's not all bad, now you can spend more time with friends and in the gym guilt free!!!

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.